Transphobic people will assert virtually such a thing to get off the much simpler truth, what trans men and women have been saying for a long time: that trans ladies are simply ladies who had been erroneously assigned male at delivery.

The problem with these two social stereotypes for the “too good” and “too bad” trans woman is they both infer that a trans woman is actually a guy, which creates an impossible balancing act for trans females. Regarding the one hand, we punish trans women to be “pretty”, accuse breathtaking trans women of lying by moving, and state that trans ladies are perpetuating misogyny when you’re stereotypically feminine.

But, having said that, we additionally discipline trans women that aren’t “pretty” within the context of the cis-centric media landscape by saying they aren’t worthy of respect, can’t work a service job, can’t be in visible media roles, are complicated to provide healthcare for, and more artificial barriers created for trans people that they“look like men.

This occurs because we, being a culture, appear to want trans individuals to both be cis-appearing enough to be hidden, but in addition we anticipate trans visitors to away on their own at each feasible moment, merely to make sure they are also simpler to avoid.

I heard from many close friends and family members were two things: “How will you ever get a good job?